by Roger Dawson
Good
Guy/Bad Guy is one of the best known negotiating gambits. Charles
Dickens first wrote about it in his book Great Expectations. In the
opening scene of the story, the young hero Pip is in the graveyard when
out of the sinister mist comes a large, very frightening man. This man
is a convict, and he has chains around his legs. He asks Pip to go into
the village and bring back food and a file, so he can remove the chains.
The convict has a dilemma, however. He wants to scare the child into
doing as he's asked, yet he mustn't put so much pressure on Pip that
he'll be frozen in place or bolt into town to tell the policeman.
The solution to the convict's problem is to use the Good Guy/Bad
Guy Gambit. Taking some liberty with the original work, what the convict
says in effect, is "You know, Pip, I like you, and I would never do
anything to hurt you But I have to tell you that waiting out here in the
mist is a friend of mine and he can be violent and I'm the only one who
can control him. If I don't get these chains off-if you don't help me
get them off-then my friend might come after you. So, you have to help
me. Do you understand?" Good Guy/Bad Guy is a very effective way of
putting pressure on people, without confrontation.
I'm sure you've seen Good Guy/Bad Guy used in the old police movies.
Officers bring a suspect into the police station for questioning, and
the first detective to interrogate him is a rough, tough, mean-looking
guy. He threatens the suspect with all kinds of things that they're
going to do to him. Then he's mysteriously called away to take a phone
call, and the second detective, who's brought in to look after the
prisoner while the first detective is away, is the warmest, nicest guy
in the entire world. He sits down and makes friends with the prisoner.
He gives him a cigarette and says, "Listen kid, it's really not as bad
as all that. I've taken a liking to you. I know the ropes around here.
Why don't you let me see what I can do for you?" It's a real temptation
to think that the Good Guy's on your side when, of course, he really
isn't.
Then the Good Guy would go ahead and close on what salespeople would
recognize as a minor point close. "All I think the detectives really
need to know," he tells the prisoner, "is where did you buy the gun?"
What he really wants to know is, "Where did you hide the body?"
Starting out with a minor point like that and then working up from
there, works very well, doesn't it? The car salesperson says to you, "If
you did invest in this car would you get the blue or the gray?" "Would
you want the vinyl upholstery or the leather?" Little decisions lead to
big ones. The real estate salesperson who says, "If you did invest in
this home, how would you arrange the furniture in the living room?" Or,
"Which of these bedrooms would be the nursery for your new baby?" Little
decisions grow to big decisions.
People use Good Guy/Bad Guy on you
much more than you might believe. Look out for it anytime you find
yourself dealing with two people. Chances are you'll see it being used
on you, in one form or another.
For example, you may sell corporate health insurance plans for an HMO
and have made an appointment to meet with the Vice-President of Human
Resources at a company that manufactures lawn mowers. When the secretary
leads you in to meet with the vice president, you find to your surprise
that the president of the company wants to sit in and listen in on your
presentation.
That's negotiating two on one, which is not good, but you go ahead
and everything appears to be going along fine. You feel that you have a
good chance of closing the sale, until the president suddenly starts
getting irritated. Eventually he says to his vice president, "Look, I
don't think these people are interested in making a serious proposal to
us. I'm sorry, but I've got things to do." Then he storms out of the
room.
This really shakes you up if you're not used to negotiating. Then the
vice-president says, "Wow. Sometimes he gets that way, but I really
like the plan that you presented, and I think we can still work this
out. If you could be a little more flexible on your price, then I think
we can still put it together. Tell you what-why don't you let me see
what I can do for you with him?"
If you don't realize what they're
doing to you, you'll hear yourself say something like, "What do you
think the president would agree to?" Then it won't be long before you'll
have the vice-president negotiating for you-and he or she is not even
on your side.
If you think I'm exaggerating on this one, consider this: Haven't
you, at one time or another, said to a car salesperson, "What do you
think you could get your sales manager to agree to?" As if the
salesperson is on your side, not on theirs? Haven't we all at one time
been buying real estate and have found the property we want to buy, so
we say to the agent that has been helping us find the property, "What do
you think the sellers would take?" Let me ask you something. Who is
your agent working for? Who is paying her? It's not you, is it? She is
working for the seller and yet she has effectively played Good Guy/Bad
Guy with us. So, look out for it, because you run into it a lot.
Power Negotiators use several Counter-Gambits to Good Guy/Bad Guy:
* The first Counter-Gambit is simply to identify the Gambit. Although
there are many other ways to handle the problem, this one is so
effective that it's probably the only one you need to know. Good Guy/Bad
Guy is so well known that it embarrasses people when they get caught
using it. When you notice the other person using it you should smile and
say, "Oh, come on-you aren't going to play Good Guy/Bad Guy with me are
you? Come on, sit down, let's work this thing out." Usually their
embarrassment will cause them to retreat from the position.
* You could respond by creating a bad guy of your own. Tell them that
you'd love to do what they want, but you have people back in the head
office who are obsessed with sticking to the program. You can always
make a fictitious bad guy appear more unyielding than a bad guy who is
present at the negotiation.
* You could go over their heads to their supervisor. For example, if
you're dealing with a buyer and head buyer at a distributorship, you
might call the owner of the distributorship and say, "Your people were
playing Good Guy/Bad Guy with me. You don't approve of that kind of
thing, do you?" (Always be cautious about going over someone's head. The
strategy can easily backfire because of the bad feelings it can cause.)
* Sometimes just letting the bad guy talk resolves the problem,
especially if he's being obnoxious. Eventually his own people will get
tired of hearing it and tell him to knock it off.
* You can counter Good Guy/Bad Guy by saying to the Good Guy, "Look, I
understand what you two are doing to me. From now on anything that he
says, I'm going to attribute to you also." Now you have two bad guys to
deal with, so it diffuses the Gambit. Sometimes just identifying them
both in your own mind as bad guys will handle it, without you having to
come out and accuse them.
* If the other side shows up with an attorney or controller who is
clearly there to play bad guy, jump right in and forestall their role.
Say to them, "I'm sure you're here to play bad guy, but let's not take
that approach. I'm as eager to find a solution to this situation as you
are, so why don't we all take a win-win approach. Fair enough?" This
really takes the wind out of their sails.
This Gambit is very, very effective even when everybody knows what's
going on. It was how Presidents Carter and Reagan got the hostages out
of Iran, wasn't it? You remember that? Carter had lost the election. He
was very eager to do something about the Iranian hostage situation
before he left the White House and Reagan could take credit for their
release. So, he started playing Good Guy/Bad Guy with the Ayatollah. He
said to him, "If I were you, I'd settle this thing with me. Don't take a
chance on this new team coming into office in January. My goodness,
have you taken a look at these guys? The President's a former cowboy
actor. The Vice President is the former head of the C.I.A. The Secretary
of State is Alexander Haig. These guys are crazier than Englishmen.
There's no telling what they might do."
Reagan, playing along with
it, said, "Hey, if I were you, I'd settle with Carter. He's a nice guy.
You're definitely not going to like what I'll have to say about it, when
I get into the White House." And sure enough, we saw the hostages being
released on the morning of Reagan's inauguration. Of course, the
Iranians were aware of Good Guy/Bad Guy, but they didn't want to take a
chance that Reagan would follow through with his threats. It
demonstrated that these Gambits work even when the other side knows what
you're doing.
In 1994, Jimmy Carter was again called upon to play the Good Guy when
he and Colen Powell went to Haiti to see if they could get General
Cedras to give up power without a fight. Powell was there to impress the
might of the armed forces upon Cedras. Carter was there to cozy up the
dictator, even suggesting he come to Plains, Georgia, and teach a class
in Sunday School when the crisis was over.
KEY POINTS TO REMEMBER:
* People use Good Guy/Bad Guy on you much more than you might
believe. Look out for it whenever you're negotiating with two or more
people.
* It is a very effective way of putting pressure on the other person without creating confrontation.
* Counter it by identifying it. It's such a well-known tactic that
when you catch them using it, they get embarrassed and back off.
* Don't be concerned that the other side knows what you're doing.
Even if they do it can still be a powerful tactic. In fact, when you're
Power Negotiating with someone who understands all of these Gambits, it
becomes more fun. It's like playing chess with a person of equal skill
rather than someone whom you can easily outsmart.
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