Have you ever met someone and walked away with "freak" or "loser" in
mind? Are you afraid of being that someone and having others not like or
understand you? Well, let your worries and fears fade by learning how
to make a great and lasting first impression on people using these
amazing following steps.
1
Be confident and outgoing.
When a person realizes someone has those qualities, they find them
easier to talk with and much more welcoming. Maybe if you are in junior
high, shaking hands may not be the thing to do, but for anyone else,
shake hands. If you are culturally aware that some groups do not touch
the opposite sex, you may opt out of shaking hands, but in America, most
people shake hands.
2
Proper posture is imperative.
Body language can tell someone a lot about your mood and confidence
level. Slouching is a no-no as it gives the impression of insecurity and
defeat. You must always stand straight and tall, possibly with a hand
on your hip, if you want to convey to someone that you are a strong,
confident, deserving individual.
3
Never fidget. Keep your hands to your side or in your lap. Never bite your fingernails, twirl your hair or crumple a napkin in your hand.
4
Relax.
Posture is very important, but you don't want to look like a robot,
either. Sit up straight, but don't be so rigid that you'd fall over if
pushed. It's like when people say that an animal can smell your fear;
people can tell if you're nervous. Just be yourself. Don't try to
impress someone, let your real personality do the work.
5
Smile.
Especially when first meeting someone. It's not necessary to show your
teeth, just a meaningful grin will do. Be careful not to transition from
a smile to a straight face too quickly, or people will sense you're
being fake or that you don't like them.
6
Make eye contact.
Stay focused on the person you are speaking with and certainly not on
anything else to avoid them feeling unappreciated and unwanted. Often if
the person has an eye problem, like an eye that turns in, you're put
off by this. Instead, focus on the person's nose or mouth.
7
Dress appropriately.
Always be genuine and show your unique personality. Whether this
includes latest fashion is up to you. You want to make a first
impression about yourself, so be yourself. Just think about your
cleavage or skirt length (if you're a woman), or cleanliness of the
clothes. Be conscious of your accessories and what they will say about
you.
8
Have a sense of humor.
People who try to be funny are NOT funny. Truly funny people are just
themselves and the wittiness shows. Don't use lame jokes or lines.
9
Be interesting. Use
some common sense when speaking. Most ladies aren't going to be
interested in Bif standing there talking about his last fight in the bar
or how many beers he can drink. Similarly, most guys aren't going to
want to listen to stories about cute things your puppy did or how much
you like shoes. You're trying to attract the other person. Intrigue
them. Keep them interested.
10
Concentrate on getting the person to talk about himself or herself.
"So, what do you like to do in your downtime?" A nice comment about
appearance is also appropriate -- that's a lovely color for you -- is
okay between females.
11
Find your connection. At a party, you can ask how the other person knows the host and explore that topic a bit.
12
If you're on a job interview, know something about the company!
In fact, know as much as you possible can about it. Cover your tattoos.
Bosses aren't big into them and neither are customers in most
businesses.
13
If your teeth are in disrepair, find a way to get them back into shape.
Bad teeth are a turn off. You might want to even get a second job to
finance dental repairs -- bad teeth really are a turn off.
14
Go easy on the perfume or cologne.
This is self-explanatory. Remember the famous saying "a little bit goes
a long way" rather than "too much is never enough". You may love the
scent you are wearing; however, it could easily offend others or cause a
reaction to their allergies, if applicable. In this regard, it is
probably better to wear none at all or, if you must, then spray it into a
distance and wait a few seconds before walking through the sprayed
area.
15
Use good hygiene.
This is super important, especially for teens. This may seem overly
basic, but always shower daily and wear clean, fresh clothes. Also
equally important, you should brush your teeth twice daily and be sure
to wear deodorant and/or anti-perspirant, if needed, especially if
you're meeting someone important who is likely to make you nervous.
16
Close on a good note.
Keep them wanting more. Show that you had a really good time and would
like to see them again. Maybe even text them saying so when you get
home. People on a first date not only want to have a good time, but they
want to know that you did as well. They want that reassurance.
17
Be yourself. Don't pretend to be someone you're not, or you are stuck with that label forever.
18
Remember the name of the people you meet.
When introduced, used the person's name: "It's so nice to meet, you
Bob." If the name is unusual, you might even ask them to spell their
name, "As a way to help me remember you."
19
Have a conversation about something appropriate in the situation.
At your new job, ask your college how long he has worked there. At the
bus stop talk about the weather. Remember what people have told you,
maybe ask more questions about some subject. (e.g.: "You have worked
here for a year? What did you do before?" or "Where did you live
before?")
20
Never brag. This includes namedropping.
21
Talk about your interests and hobbies. Ask the other person about what their hobbies are - it's always a great conversation starter!
22
Stay positive.
When you put down a third party, the other person realizes they are
next. Never, ever discuss past relationships on a first date. It's too
personal a topic. If someone asks, say "I'd much rather learn about you
and what interests you."
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